Life on this earth is not perfect. With the number of personalities on this planet equaling the number of people who are currently breathing, it is inevitable that every person will have to face disappointment for more than a few times during his or her lifetime.
I experienced this disappointment recently, and it left me a lot more frustrated then I wanted to admit. However, after walking around for two days with a black cloud hovering over my head, I knew that something had to be done about it. So with faith and a cup of coffee, I sat down to think and pray. It was the following steps that helped guide me through to getting past the dark emotions I had.
1) Face the Frustration - a lot of people would rather die than admit that they were hurt. What they do not understand is, if the pain is not admitted, then technically there is nothing to fix! If forgiveness has to take place, one has to first acknowledge that there is something to forgive.
2) Identify the Source - the pain should have started from somewhere. We can't just go around saying that this person hurt us and just leave it at that. Just like a report of any other incident, we need to know when it happened, how it happened, and maybe even the why. If the source of the problem is not identified, then it cannot be fixed. Think of trying to fix a leak without knowing which portion of the pipe is leaking.
3) Create a Way Forward - this is crucial, because some events may not even have a way forward... or at least not for the person who was hurt. This is when the offended party needs to acknowledge what needs to be done for things to get better. Some people just love to hate, that they wouldn't be able to point out action steps that can be taken in order to mend fences. There are times when we need to acknowledge that what was done was in the past, and we just have to face it.
4) Pray - Some people disregard this step, but only prayer can bring that lighthearted feeling that we all want to have. This is not just the prayer that people rattle of and get it done with. It's the type that makes a person close his or her eyes and talk to The Creator with the belief that He is there, and that He is listening.
"Forgive and forget" is what most people say when they are told of heartaches and emotional hurt. This is not an easy thing to do, because we remember the pain from the scars on our shoulders. How much more the emotional pain that we had to go through?
It will not be easy to forget, but we can forgive and make it a point not to bring it up again. In time, when these pains are no longer brought up and discussed, then they will simply fade away. For this to happen though, we all have to admit that there was pain, make it a point to make things better, and just forgive... with the help of our Creator.
Life on this earth is not perfect. With the number of personalities on this planet equaling the number of people who are currently breathing, it is inevitable that every person will have to face disappointment for more than a few times during his or her lifetime.
I experienced this disappointment recently, and it left me a lot more frustrated then I wanted to admit. However, after walking around for two days with a black cloud hovering over my head, I knew that something had to be done about it. So with faith and a cup of coffee, I sat down to think and pray. It was the following steps that helped guide me through to getting past the dark emotions I had.
1) Face the Frustration - a lot of people would rather die than admit that they were hurt. What they do not understand is, if the pain is not admitted, then technically there is nothing to fix! If forgiveness has to take place, one has to first acknowledge that there is something to forgive.
2) Identify the Source - the pain should have started from somewhere. We can't just go around saying that this person hurt us and just leave it at that. Just like a report of any other incident, we need to know when it happened, how it happened, and maybe even the why. If the source of the problem is not identified, then it cannot be fixed. Think of trying to fix a leak without knowing which portion of the pipe is leaking.
3) Create a Way Forward - this is crucial, because some events may not even have a way forward... or at least not for the person who was hurt. This is when the offended party needs to acknowledge what needs to be done for things to get better. Some people just love to hate, that they wouldn't be able to point out action steps that can be taken in order to mend fences. There are times when we need to acknowledge that what was done was in the past, and we just have to face it.
4) Pray - Some people disregard this step, but only prayer can bring that lighthearted feeling that we all want to have. This is not just the prayer that people rattle of and get it done with. It's the type that makes a person close his or her eyes and talk to The Creator with the belief that He is there, and that He is listening.
"Forgive and forget" is what most people say when they are told of heartaches and emotional hurt. This is not an easy thing to do, because we remember the pain from the scars on our shoulders. How much more the emotional pain that we had to go through?
It will not be easy to forget, but we can forgive and make it a point not to bring it up again. In time, when these pains are no longer brought up and discussed, then they will simply fade away. For this to happen though, we all have to admit that there was pain, make it a point to make things better, and just forgive... with the help of our Creator.
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