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Oldies Direct Answers - Column for the week of January 5 for 2004I am a captain in the Marine Corps. A year ago my wife around on me with another Marine. He lived in an apartment facing ours, which runs every day on my way to work. It 'been my girlfriend at the time, and she told me, because he felt guilty about it. He said that happened only once.She never said that he spoke with the boy new to say except to leave alone. I married her, even after I discovered that I love her and because I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. I have a lot of anger inside of him, especially since I worked at the base with him. Has left some 'time ago for another purpose, and the apartment is empty now.My question is how do you stop thinking about her? The image in my mind like a broken record. I do not want to go harass my wife. I want on it and move forward. But I kind of sickness, when I think that in their hands. I wonder if it will be again, and I wonder if I'm not good enough, especially in bed.To be honest, I do not know why another trap that was unhappy about the money and move to a new base. He said that he wanted to see the minutes and you want the best man he had ever seen. I am very insecure about it is unreal. I have never and will never be cheat.MontyMonty, forty years ago, sang Roy Orbison, "It breaks my heart in two, namely that it was false. Puddle Of Mudd hours sings "? You must find a way to take the knife from my back. "Forty years from now someone else is singing the same old story, and that sounds like the same broken record.Even when no longer see the man in the empty apartment, watching his wife will be a memory of what happened. Which, when and where it does not matter. What matters is that any reason that justifies the deception you. What matters is that the prize that has caused him grief with a marriage. Now that pain has a full-time and part of his life.She gave a ticket to lose, and that gave him the prize. Your anger is just the other side of fear that it will be again. You tried to avoid the pain of losing her, but once it's been unfaithful, she is gone. You need to work through the pain and move forward with someone who would be faithful. The title of Roy Orbison in 1964 the song "It's Over" is answer.TamaraRewiringOur divorce will be final in five weeks. My wife has accused me of everything that went wrong in our relationship, and admitting that some things were my fault. However, when they were together he never once said that what he means or if I'm coming from.Foolishly still feel obligated to it. It's called and asked me please. It begins to speak very well, then tell me that I am horrible person. We leave these conversations feeling exhausted emotionally and spiritually. I'm not saying hurtful things to her, however, this must stop. I suppose that part of me still hopes reconciliation.OzzieOzzie, their wires are crossed. Abuse and love are opposites. Once your uncross wires that will change your perspective. That shed light on new reports, as well as his old. For the next five weeks, your old self be true. Once the divorce is final, change your phone number. His wife has given a great gift, the opportunity to discover what really is.WayneAbout love AuthorAuthors and columnist Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached by letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or via e-mail: @ DirectAnswers WayneAndTamara.com.