Nothing to celebrate

Nothing to celebrate Direct Answers - Column for the week of 12 August 2002I was in your column by accident. Boy, was impeccable timing. I sit here writing is my anniversary weekend. Home alone while my husband is in a three-day golf event with his friends. I cried for two days.This is a reality check for me to know our problems through 23 years are still there, even after consultation. Do I have to cry, or it's time to quit? And I said that during a New Year game of basketball, while I remained alone at home? I know that most golfers do not want to give a weekend with his friends, but a man truly happy to give the invitation for the good of his wife? I am a person who feels, thinks, then decide. My husband is a person who thinks, decides, and then feels.Josey Josey, with tears in her eyes, a woman told us this story. She and her husband planned a cruise with another couple. Their 25th The wedding is in the center of the cruise. When other children are not her husband canceled their reservations also.In its heart, this is what you hear. "I love you. Let me in this jouey today. We have a second honeymoon. "But they do not speak. It was thought that ought to know their feelings, but their silence confirms what he did.Sometimes couples run into so many directions at once, you are thrown off course. Thus, a simple, open declaration of sentiments clarify things. If your husband was involuntary separation, we suggest a course of action. If not the case with the knowledge or intent to injure, it is proposed another.Wayne A Covey From CounselorsLast year I cheated on my girl and she found it. It 'was terrible. We, and I gave the treatment, which was a big thing for me to do. E 'was and is in therapy, and she is a therapist herself.When we are back together, we were very codependent. It seems that we were not entirely new to the trust. Although we have virtually traveled and lived together in recent months, we have also the criticism of the stupidest wars things.Last months, there was a job. I have criticized for not more committed to our relationship and to spend too much time to work. He moved his head. This guy, who has done a lot of money not to leave their values professionally.A week broke with me. At first, he said that has nothing to do with their work, then admitted that he had a strong feeling for his head. Now have nights together. Devastated.I I'm currently unemployed and I live with my mother, and he is older and more successful. I love and want them back. I have a wild hope, everything on them and they come to me in time.Mac Mac, I have a wild hope that everything revolves around you for your life together. What you need, refers to a job on their feet, and pay your bills.You "Re adherence to a relationship where you are in therapy, your girl is in therapy, a therapist and you sleep with his boss, a therapist. Maybe, just maybe, the therapy is not to make it relationship.You are unemployed and depend on your mother. Since your girlfriend would be a final step for you, but when his career and lived in a place of their own, the world would look different to you.Right hours looking for a relationship, you have your hole. You need to defend itself from hole.TamaraAbout The Author Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached by writing to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or e-mail: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com.